The other day my girlfriend and I were having a conversation about cheaters. What provokes people to step outside of their relationship and cheat? After watching a few people around me cheat, I feel like I can understand why people do it. There seems to be fundamental problems going on that makes people want to seek control back in their relationship and/or lives. For example, someone who shall remain anonymous, is cheating on their boyfriend and/or husband. From the outside, one may not understand why. But from the inside, there are insecurities issues that prevents the wife and/or girlfriend from moving and acting as she pleases. So, to seek the little bit of control she can personally get, she cheats. That makes sense to me. But one wonders, then why stay with the person if he is controlling? Time and investments put into the relationship is what is why. It is not easy to just pick up and leave after years of time and energy invested in that relationship. And counseling may not always help. So what then?
This entry is inspired by my own relationship. I am experiencing a moment in my relationship where I am realizing something about my partner. Something about myself. And thats CONTROL. Who gets it? Who has more of it? How can we evenly have control in something that we both invested in together?...hmmmmmm I am still working on these answers. Just wanted to put my thoughts out there to roam the internet, hopefully into the hands of someone who can answer these questions.
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